What Happened
The Workplace Leadership Institute recently published a five-step framework for building civility in office environments. Their core argument: respectful workplaces don't happen by accident. Leadership must drive them deliberately. The Institute delivered this guidance through its organizational development program, positioning civility not as a soft perk but as a structural responsibility that sits squarely on the shoulders of those at the top.
This is exactly the kind of scenario I break down in Say It Right Every Time. The chapter on setting the tone before you speak gives you a framework for understanding how your behavior in the first five minutes of any conversation or meeting becomes the permission structure for everything that follows. Leaders who master that principle don't need civility policies. They become the policy.
Key Takeaway
Before your next team meeting, identify one specific behavior you want to model, not mention, but actually demonstrate. If you want people to listen without interrupting, practice it visibly and call attention to it: "I want to make sure everyone finishes their thought before we respond." One modeled behavior, done consistently, rewires a room faster than any policy ever will.
